10 Things That Happen When You're a Photographer With Kids ~ Wisconsin Photographer

Having kids and having a business is....well...let's just say it's an "adventure". It's a lesson in time management....it's "interesting"...to say the least. 

I often wonder what it's like on the other side....what it's like to do this as a DINK (dual income no kids) or a single lady (hey girl!) ....or a single dude. So many stories, so many ways to approach this job.

Here's what goes down as a photographer who HAS kids. Throw a hand up in solidarity if you know the drill.....

1. Kids Started You on the Journey

Not ALWAYS, but for a LOT of us the reason we picked up a camera in the first place was because we had kids and wanted to take nicer pictures of them than our phone or our point and shoot could provide. I know that's when I ended up getting a "nice camera".  The thing sat...for a LONG time...but once I had the time (read: I was fired from my big girl job)....I took to it like a duck to water. Well, maybe like an awkward duck missing a leg to water at first....but I took to it none-the-less. 

 

(Picture by Andrea Paradowski Photography) 

2. You Have Built In Guinea Pigs

When I first started "lighting all the things", I made Betty stand in front of the flash for hours on end as I adjusted settings and feathered softboxes. She was mighty patient with me. 

She was also subject to years of horrible Photoshopping. 

Kids allow you to try stuff out before you unleash it on the masses. 

3. You Feel It Necessary to Bring Out the Big Guns

I honestly feel BAD if I don't bring the "real camera" to events with the kids....like I'm not doing my duty. Sort of like a dentist's kid having jacked up teeth....I feel like my kids should at least have their photographer mom bringing the "real camera" to document their stuff. 

Even though it's often a giant pain in the butt, I will drag the D800 and the 180mm to the Christmas program. 

4. "You Must Have Gorgeous Pictures of the Kids"

People say this ALL. THE. TIME.  They assume my kids are wonderful angelic models in front of the camera and that my walls are festooned with incredible images of them.

Most of the time, I get this: 

I also haven't gotten new pictures of the kids on my wall since Molly was a newborn....with the exception of a family session done for us by someone else. 

FAIL.   My job is to make other people's kids look good. Not my own : ) 

5. Your Work Spaces are a Mess

Now, I try. I really really do. I try to make sure my home office is tidy.....but often the desk is full of drawings the kids did for me of various Princesses....I'll come home to find they put stickers of Anna and Elsa all over my computer screen, and my camera bag TYPICALLY has a Pony or Shopkin in it. 
The more kids you add, I find, the more STUFF accumulates. Just looking at my desk right now, there's more kid-crap than work-crap. 

6. You're Gonna Miss Stuff. Lots of Stuff. 

I have not made it to a Family Reunion in YEARS. I've worked on Betty's birthday for several summers (including this one). Wedding dates have fallen on important event dates and I just have to say "Welp, that's the way it goes"

I know friends of mine in the industry who have missed graduations, plays, recitals and sports events. 

It's the nature of the beast. 

But, when you have kids....events happen. When you're a wedding photographer, you're gonna miss some of those event. Its inevitable. 

We move Birthday Parties to Sundays.....we have fun on the weekdays....I make sure to REALLY take a good look at schedules but sometimes planning a year in advance is just impossible. 
 

7. You Gain A Major Understanding of Other Parents and Their Kids

Dude, for real. NEVER feel bad if your kid comes to the studio and is acting like a psycho. I feel ya. Seriously. Have you MET my 5 year old? 

I totally get it when kids don't cooperate. When they throw major fits or give me attitude. Because I live with it. Every day. And trust me, when it happens to me I am JUST as mortified. 

Usually I feel bad because as the "professional" I can't get them to straighten up and fly right in front of the camera. But, I can't get my OWN kids to do that! 

Just know I feel ya.....I'm with ya....don't sweat it! 

Don't worry. My kids can be insufferable brats too. 

8. You Have MAJORLY Understanding Babysitters/Spouses

You kinda have to. Because your schedule is whack. Because things run long. Because you work when other people don't. Because while hubby wants to cuddle on the couch with a bottle of red and a good movie, you have to FINALLY sit down to edit because the kids FINALLY went to bed. 

We are fortunate to have a VERY flexible babysitting situation (read: a very understanding mother-in-law) and my husband is super-parent on the weekends. It works for us, but it took YEARS of schedule adjusting and...let's face it....fights about how much I worked to get to this point. 

9. You Wonder If You Need to Start Saving For Therapy

Because you're gone all the time....spending time on other people's kids. Or, because you're ALWAYS at the computer. 

We all question our abilities and competency as parents. Seriously. None of us think we are doing everything we can all of the time....

But to this day it keeps me up at night wondering if ALL the time I spend on the business is going to ruin my kids for life. 

10. You Realize Balance is REALLY HARD....if not Impossible Sometimes. 

People talk about "balance" all the time. I even blogged about it at one point, I'm sure. 

After 8 years and 3 kids....I'm realizing there really is no such thing. If you're going to run a business and have kids, something is going to suffer at some point. You have to give SOMETHING up. I've chosen, for example, to tighten up my workflow so I don't have to edit so much. We chose to sell our retail store to have more time with the kids. I chose not to work ANOTHER full time job in addition to shooting. 

We make choices. Sometimes the business is going to win. Sometimes the kids.

Maybe that is balance, I dunno.


 

Picture by Kara Reese Photography

We are all just hangin' in best we can. And sometimes it gets SO hard that we want to just quit the whole thing, scoop our babies up in our arms and say "I don't care if mommy's employed, let's go get ice cream".....but that's not realistic now, is it.

Have some grace with yourself. Have some patience with this journey, because it's YOURS....you make it what you want it to be and sometimes it's not going to be perfect. 

I kinda like my imperfect little mess, sometimes. It's certainly never boring : ) 

10 Truths About Wedding Photography

Being endlessly positive is hard. 

In anything. In parenting. In love. In friendship. In work.  Looking at our working life and saying "It's AWESOME!" all the time is nearly impossible....not to mention not realistic. Nothing is awesome all of the time.

Except for things like, I dunno, ska music or delicious Italian food. That's awesome all of the time.

But I'm getting off track.

I think when you're a professional, full-time photographer...the majority of your job is convincing yourself (and others) that you're "okay". 

Maybe it would be better if we were just HONEST, for once....and took that honesty and made what we could of it. 

These are my bitter truths. Yours may be different. But, after 8 years of full-time camera-slinging, I've learned a little. I, by no means, know it all....but here's some conclusions I've come to.

Feel free to comment and add your own :) 

1. There are too many of us.

You're going to hear all the time "there's enough work for everyone" but that's just bad math and bad business. There's never enough work for EVERYONE. That's not the way the free market works. The work goes to those who succeed in persuading the market to go to them. Those who don't persuade the market or attract their "tribe", as Seth Godin has taught, will fail. Their studios will close. That's business. That's capitalism.

Right now, in the Wisconsin Photographers Facebook group, there are over 7000 people. SEVEN. THOUSAND. 

Yes, there are too many of us. The supply has far overtaken the demand. It's not "negative thinking" to admit to that. It's just simple numbers. Small towns don't need 20 "professional photographers"....there's not that much demand for those type of numbers. 

2. You can still make a living doing this, but you better "werk". 

This does not mean that no one is making it as a full time photographer. I've been full time for 8 years....and managed to successfully support my family. 

Easily? No. But, we haven't lost our house yet. So, there's that. Silver lining. It CAN be done....still. For how much longer? Who knows. 

What the truth is, this job looks a lot different to people who are supporting their families as the breadwinner than it does to someone who doesn't have that hanging over their head. That's true for most jobs. No one really talks about that. They want to hear about the travel, the beauty, the "cool", the fat cash. They don't want to hear that it's slow as molasses in January and sometimes I'm one "we went with someone else" email away from standing on a  street corner with a "Will Shoot for Food" sign.

3. Gear matters.

People will tell you that a "real" photographer can take a disposable camera and make incredible art. 

People can be a bit thick. Let's face it, the majority of us are not slaving away in a darkroom, mixing chemicals and creating amazing art. The majority of us have never been IN a darkroom. 

If you can afford a top of the line $6000 camera body, your pictures are probably going to be better than the person who can only afford a used, say, D40 with a kit lens. 

4. Being "cool" matters.

This is a simple marketing reality, so there's no use in bellyaching about it. "Cool" brands succeed, lame brands do not. They end up on clearance racks at Dollar General.

But, if you want to insist your WORK is all that matters....and that creating better work will lead you to succeed over the cool chick with the great wardrobe and the adorably "twee" quips.....yeah, no. Cool chick (or cool guy's) work can easily be mediocre or even forgettable. It can look EXACTLY like everyone else's work.  Because their work really doesn't matter as much as the persona. People are going to pay cool chick $8000 to shoot their wedding because of who she is, not because her work is something especially...well...special. 

There are those rare times when you can be a complete humorless, personality devoid jerk....but your work is absolutely incredible so people will hire you. However, you...my boring friend...are the exception.

It's something I've struggled with since starting. I didn't realize the overwhelming emphasis on "cool" until I started paying attention to social media and realized that my "mom wardrobe" and my affinity for geek culture probably wasn't going to cut it on the photographer circuit. I probably needed my husband to grow a beard or something. 

I was never cool in school. Right Ben Folds? 

I'm not cool now either. 

5. Very few clients TRULY care about the technical aspect of the work. 

This is not to cut on the clients. Our clients are not photographers. We know that. Deep down, we GET that. They want pretty pictures. They want a snap of their kid smiling. They don't care HOW we go about doing that OR if it was done correctly. The majority don't care about white balance or f/stops.

But, I have to tell you, we die a little inside when we get a perfectly lit, sharp-as-a-tack, beautifully composed image.....we post it....and crickets. A like or two.  Then we see some out-of-focus, muddy garbage get 1000 likes and a bunch of shares. There's no science to this. Seriously.....it's about emotion. Sometimes it simply comes down to the subject of the crap picture has more friends that the subject of your picture. They're maybe more apt to "like" things. The shooter is "cooler" than you. Marketing! 

But, we sit at our computers and we say "I don't get it. I did everything right". 

6. Most of us care....a LOT....to a detrimental degree.

Even after 8 years, I'm sometimes going to get that dreaded email: "I'm disappointed"

If someone tells you they have never had a disappointed or unhappy client, they are lying liars from Liar Town. It's bound to happen. We are working with a myriad of personalities with a myriad of issues....we sometimes have an "off" day.....we are human. 

Whenever I have a client who isn't 100% over-the-moon about their images, it HURTS. Bad. I stress over it ALL. DAY. LONG. What could I have done better? What can I do to HELP the situation. How can I fix it. 

Is this going to destroy my business? 

Yeah. 

The silver lining here? The fact that I (and others) still care THIS MUCH means I truly care about my clients and their happiness. I would start to worry if I got to the point of "Whatever....they don't get my ART" because that's when I need to quit. 

That leads me to.....

7. It's not really about art.

Let's be honest with ourselves for a moment. Most of us aren't really making heart-stopping art. Most of the time we are too worried about fulfilling our contractual obligations or churning out what Pinterest-loving clients expect from us. We are in customer service. It's ALL about what the client wants and how we can deliver that to them. 

When we DO get a chance to be creative....a lot of us come up with some pretty incredible stuff. 

But the 9-5 stuff? That's the bread and butter. As much as we'd like to think we are "artists"....we are probably, most days, closer to assembly line workers. There's NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS....as it's how we feed our kids and pay our mortgage. 

But striving to portray ourselves as deep-thinking artists online....it's not always authentic. 

There are exceptions to this, of course. There are people out there who can live out of an camper van making wet-plate prints of their hipster friends holding plants and make six figures. 

99.9% of us are not those people.

8. Facebook has created a monster. 

At one point, you needed a website....a strong presence on the bridal show circuit....or a stellar level of customer service to make it in the industry. 

Now, you need a Facebook page....and BAM....you're "in business". 

You would not believe the bitching and moaning about this. And I'm going to put a hand to the sky and admit that I have taken part in the rabble rabble. Because it's annoying. But, it's the nature of the beast. We ALL jumped on the Facebook/Instagram/Twitter train and we beat the hell out of it. Poor, poor dead horse.

Now it's a SUPER noisy room with everyone yelling their pitch at one another and you're stuck in the corner trying to be heard above the din. 

It's hard, dude. It's really hard. You post something....a picture you're proud of. A promotion. Anything....and you get engagement at about 200 people. 

There are workshops out the ying yang out there to teach you how to be heard. But if thousands are taking these workshops and employing the same techniques....isn't it still noise?


9. This stuff's expensive. 

There's NO secret that I'm a Frugal Frannie. I HATE spending money. HATE it. I don't like to shop. I don't like buying things that I feel I don't need (which is pretty much everything)....parting with the dollar bills in my wallet it a painful experience.

I sit back and I watch my friends drop mighty duckets on workshops, leather ONA bags, ProPhoto lights, Pocket Wizards that aren't broken, creamy bokeh making lenses that are more expensive than my mortgage.....and I feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be doing. 

My biggest expense is my studio. I look at my yearly expenses each tax season and I want to be SICK.  You charge what you charge and about 45% of that is GONE immediately for expenses and taxes. Yup. 

But it is what it is. This job is FREAKING. EXPENSIVE. to maintain for a single-employee business. It's just little ole me. I don't have big reserves to throw towards "fun stuff" for the business.....I have enough for the bare minimum. And I feel that sometimes, that puts me behind the pack. I work every single Saturday in the summer....I miss time with my kids, family events, vacations, and SLEEP. I edit when I can, around nap times, and very often I take on jobs I don't necessarily WANT to shoot because I need to pay the bills. It's the not-so-cool-or-Instagram-worthy part of the job. That it's a JOB, at the core.  That we need to take that into consideration when trying to mold what we want this job to look like for us.  

I think if we pay attention to the workshop givers or the "cool' shooters, we can believe that we can ALL bring in fat cash all the time and that this job is a road to riches. 
It takes a LOT to get it to that point. 

The expense is great, in money and in time. Can it be done? Yes. Is the cost high? Yes. In more ways than one. 

10. Here's where I get cheeseball....but it's the truth. Get the tissues. It's 'bout to get real.

I don't want to do anything else. 

I was talking to a friend the other day who does the same thing I do for a living and I laughed with her that we were grumbling about another work day when our work day is TAKING PICTURES....and how many people WISHED they could do what we making a living at. 

I've been in the cubicle. I've been in the office. I've HAD a boss (several.....never really worked out too well). At 36 years old I know myself well enough to know that no matter HOW hard it gets, or the overcrowding...the expense....the negative parts of the job.....I can't do anything else. Not right now. I was MEANT to be self-employed. It fits me. It is ingrained deep in my soul and my psyche. 

I will always defend this industry always. I will LOVE this industry always. I will always take a critical eye to it, because it's mine...it's ours...we should evaluate it every once in awhile. 

It's a way to keep it alive and growing. The storm clouds have always been there....the silver linings will be there too.

As we enter another frantic summer season, let's just hang in, folks. Let's try not to let the bitter truths destroy something that is bigger than our little world.

Roll with the changes, never stop growing, and realize that, for this moment, we are tremendously lucky to do what we do.

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25 Things Wedding Photographers Wish You Knew ~ Wisconsin Wedding Photographer

Note: This blog was originally published in March of 2014. People really seemed to take to it. A few months ago I moved my website over to Squarespace and lost 8 years of blog posts (tear). So, I've been slowly moving the ones I did have saved over to the new site. Since this one was so popular, I thought I'd resurrect it for the year 2016. Enjoy! 

I’m all about being an open book. I’ve had SO many conversations with folks about what we WISH we could tell clients but don’t….out of fear mostly. We want to give our clients the world, but at the same time I don’t know too many other people who attend as many weddings as we do….so we learn a few things.

So, I decided to lay it all out there. 25 things we WISH we could tell you……just consider this your little bit of insider information  :)

1. Pinterest is Not Real Life.
I blogged about Pinterest at length last year, but it’s kind of become the best and worst thing that’s happened to the wedding industry in the past few years. It’s WONDERFUL for organizational purposes, for seeing where your head is as far as what you like and what you don’t…..but if you’ve printed out a 5 page booklet of Pinterest derived images for your photographer to replicate……oy. We’re gonna think you’re crazy. Be forewarned.

Your wedding is YOUR wedding, not some pre-designed Pinterest event. Let it happen naturally.

2. Don’t Let People Walk All Over You

This is YOUR wedding….so don’t let a pushy friend force you into some cheesetastic posing that they did at her wedding 10 years ago….and don’t let your mom try to take over church portrait time. Weddings are a perfect time to try on those big girl panties for the first time.

3. Strapless Dresses Are Not For Everyone.
Nope. They’re not. Ain’t nuttin’ wrong with sleeves. Just ask Kate Middleton.

4. Your Dress is PROBABLY Going to Get Dirty.
So just “Let it Go” (yep, that’s SO stuck in your head now, isn’t it?)

5. If Your Groom Hates Pictures, Have the Come to Jesus Talk With Him PRE-WEDDING
This is the day for Groomy to suck it up. No amount of whining or “I don’t wanna do this anymore” is helpful…..and it just leads to “why aren’t there more pictures of my groom?!?!” afterwards. It ain’t gonna kill him to just smile and make it work.

6. I Can’t Tell You if Your Hair or Makeup Looks Ridic.
Dude, have you SEEN my hair? Seriously? And I rarely even WEAR makeup (I will wear some to your wedding though, so people don’t think your photographer has the flu). So, if your chosen hairstylist gives you some jacked up “do”….I am probably not going to say anything. I’m going to assume it looks the way it’s supposed to look. Because I am not a hairstylist.

(PS: If your makeup is smeared all over your face or your hairstyle is falling OUT…I will say something. I’m not completely inept in the ways of beauty. I read Cosmo.)

7. Certain “Traditions” Kinda Give People the Willies

This can certainly vary by region…..but I know the general consensus is that the Dollar Dance is pretty passe, the bride should probably refrain from keg stands, and smashing cake in your beloved’s face isn’t as cute as you think it is. 

8. Glitter Doesn’t Make You Glow-y
In fact, on camera, it kind of looks like dandruff. Just sayin’.

9. We Don’t Know Your Family

Yes, I know. You gave us a list with people’s names on it. I should know that you need a picture with Uncle Kenny from Arkansas. Problem is, I have no freakin’ idea who Uncle Kenny from Arkansas is among the 200 guests at your wedding. I shoot many many weddings a year, with many Uncle Kenny’s. I try very hard to find out who people are, but if this is a must-take image…than just take a minute or two, hunt down Uncle Kenny for me (or designate a friendly Uncle Kenny finder), and let’s make it happen : )

10. I Can’t Make 4 Hours of Pictures Happen in 30 Minutes

Because I’m not a Time Lord.

(I am, however, a huge nerd. That doesn’t really help me timing wise either.)

11. Food Is Fundamental
Every photographer is different. Some require a meal be provided to them. Some do not. Some bring their meal. But, we needs to eat. A fed photographer is a happy photographer. And it's actually beneficial to you, the client, if we are fed when you are….not after everyone else. Typically we have to stop eating to capture the speeches….(and more often than not return to our little nook to find someone took our untouched plate). If we can slam some grub before dinner is fully served, we’ll be ready and rarin’ to go when the festivities begin in earnest….not scrounging for leftover salads and bread or getting ready to pass out in the corner because all we’ve eaten all night are cocktail cherries (true story).

12. No You Cannot Have Every Picture We Took

We don’t do this to be big mean jerkfaces. Even as professionals, not every picture we take is a winner. Some are downright unflattering. Some have bad light. Sometimes the flash hasn’t recycled yet and didn’t fire. So, this is why we edit. We go through and we customize your collection. Believe me, we didn’t get rid of anything that is integral to your day.

13. Forewarn Your Shooter
If the church lady at your chosen venue is completely scary and mean…..if there is familial strife that is going to cause odd issues the day of…..if your Grandma is blind and needs extra assistance... We need to know these things. If anything to simply avoid awkward situations.

Take it from someone who once assumed someone’s Sister was their Grandma. Yeah. That was fun.

14. SLOW DOWN.
Dude, I can’t tell you how many bridal parties book down the aisle like it’s a race…..only to have the couple wonder later why I only managed 1 shot of each pairing during the processional. SLOW. DOWN. (and LOOK UP! and for God's Sake SMILE!) 

15. Engagement Sessions Help Immensely!

It’s not just a sales tactic to say that Engagement Sessions are SUPER helpful. It’s the best time to have a relaxed, “getting to know you” session with your shooter. Find out how they direct and even maybe point out some issues BEFORE the big day that you didn’t realize would be there. They’re also helpful for me to see if one of you has a Chandler Smile that needs to be remedied before the wedding.

16. Control Your Uncle Bob

This is a toughy. It is. Everyone and their mom has a camera these days…..and everyone looks at your wedding as their chance to rock on with their bad selves and present you with pictures afterwards.

I cannot TELL you how many cellphones/iPads/cameras/flashes I have to contend with during processionals. It’s just par for the course, these days, but I no longer have a background of adoring faces watching the bride approach her husband to be. I have a bunch of devices.

Consider having a device-free ceremony (you’ll be cutting edge, I swear) or at the very least, try to control your overbearing shutterbug of a relative from jumping in the fray of family formals. It’s hugely distracting, especially if one is under a deadline.

17. Friends Do Not Make Good Vendors
Now, this is NOT necessarily a hard and fast rule….just one I’ve seen played out again and again. I’ve had couples contact me and say “We’ve decided to have a friend photograph our wedding as a gift”

There’s a few things that can go awry with this plan:
1. Often…Friend is not a wedding photographer….they’re a camera owner. There’s a big difference here.

2. If friend IS a professional wedding photographer, resentment can crop up if they’re not being fairly compensated for their work.

3. If friend has OTHER friends at the wedding, it can be tough to be in work mode 100% when others are in party mode.

4. If you wanna keep “Friend” a Friend…..let them come as a guest and hire a non-friend professional. However, as your friend, I can’t promise I won’t be watching your chosen shooter like a hawk. : )

18. Happy Brides = Great Pictures

Your attitude on your wedding day DIRECTLY relates to your images….I can’t capture blissful peace and overwhelming happiness if it isn’t there. So, I will vow to try my utmost to “capture the happy”, but it helps to “check yo self” and RELAX. Don’t let the day run you over. It’s a BIG day…an important one….but one you want to look back on fondly…not remember as the night you went crazy, had too much to drink and yelled at your best friend.

19. It Might Rain/Snow/Sleet/Be Cold/Be Hot/Be Windy On Your Day

Wish I could control the weather. REALLY wish I could. In my line of work it would be a massively kick-butt superpower. Alas, I cannot. So just roll with it. We’ll work it out.

 20. Gigantic Drunk Bridal Parties Will Affect Your Images

TRUST ME on this one. I know it’s your big party day, but if you’ve planned 15 different stops in 1 hour with your 21 nearest and dearest….who are all partaking in the bubbly on the bus….I’m just little ole me…..have mercy. Maybe designate your bossiest and most sober pal as the Bridal Party Picture Manager….to keep everyone in check.

21. Hold that KISS

Remember when I said “slow down”? This applies to the kiss at the altar too. If you do some 1 second airy platonic peck….the chances of me catching it diminish by quite a bit, and then we have to awkwardly recreate it later.

Extra cool points to those couples who do 2-3 kisses in a row. : )

22. SMILE for Crying Out Loud! 

I know you’re nervous….I know you feel like you’re gonna puke. But, SMILE. It’s a happy day. If I’m being all ninja stealthy and trying to capture candids and you’ve got bitchy resting face the entire time……meh, not good.

23. We Tend to Book Early
This is the God’s honest truth. People typically book their venue…then the photographer. In recent years we’ve been getting a lot of late bookers…which is totally weird…but not the norm.

Don’t chance it.

24. It Drives Us Nuts to Miss Perfect Photo Ops. 

This MAY just be me….and a few friends I know. Type A and all that. But it actually makes me TWITCHY if there’s a GORGEOUS sunset and no one wants to utilize it. So, if your photographer runs up to you all out of breath and giddy and asks for 5 minutes…TAKE IT. It’ll be worth it.

25. We Cannot Read Minds

This would also be super cool and helpful, but alas…not to be. If you don’t have good, open communication with your chosen photographer…you can’t expect them to do everything you envision flawlessly. Chances are we’ve only met face to face a handful of times and I’m going on only what you tell me.

Remember, I WANT to rock it out for you. We all do. The great majority of us pride ourselves on kicking ass and taking names every weekend. But we need to work together to make that happen.

All in all, all most of us want are chill, easy-to-work-with folks who are happy on their day. Who have realistic expectations…..and don’t call us “hey you”. We all want to have an awesome time….and now you have a little insider info on how to make that happen!