Fractured Thought(s) ~ Milwaukee, WI Wedding Photographer

- Summer has been moving right along at it's usual frantic pace. I can't believe it's nearly July already. I'm going to blink and it'll be Back to School time (not that I'm complaining TOO much....because 2 kids in school full time is going to feel like a beach va-cay by September)

- Got all moved into the new studio in Milton. I've only gotten the chance to shoot out of it once so far, but I am LOVING the room it provides. The space. The lack of CONSTRUCTION! Oh yes.....I am just reveling in the beautiful lack of construction. Believe me. 

- Miss Bridget is easing into a semi-regular sleep pattern. She's a REALLY good baby. We are being rewarded for surviving Molly.

- Newest fangirl obsession? Most definitely Hamilton.

I WANTED to hate it....just because it was SO popular I figured it was probably awful (that's the music snob in me rearing her snobby little head)

It's so NOT awful. In fact, it's a work of pure friggin' GENIUS, and I don't even LIKE hip-hop. I've been running it non-stop in my car. It is SO good. SO good. (Plus is totally helps that Lin-Manuel Miranda is pretty much the cutest singer/rapper/writer/poet EVER.

The kids like it too (the appropriate songs anyway). Molly keeps asking to play "Doctor Hammil Hammilston". Not sure where she got that he's a Doctor, but close enough.

- The hubs and I hit up Great America for one last free run with our season pass before it expired. Good stuff....still love me some roller coasters. 

- STILL kicking around the idea of moving. We are most definitely SET on moving....we just don't really know where exactly...or what we really want in a house. My DREAM home is nestled in the countryside outside of Fort Atkinson....but it's a bit outside of our current budget. I'm trying to be patient but it is SO hard. I'm a "let's make it work NOW" type of gal, definitely. Delayed gratification is killing me. Especially if dream house sells without me ever having toured it.

Definitely would like to be closer to the Milwaukee or Madison market. I feel so far removed way down here in B-Town sometimes. 

- I turn 36 in 4 days.

THIRTY SIX. My lord, that sounded positively ancient only a few short years ago. Thirty Six is ADULT. Like, full-fledged. Guess I have to stop being immature and laughing at fart jokes and Family Guy episodes, right? 

- This month coming up is going to be pure crazy. It all kicks off with a legit TRIPLE HEADER the first weekend of July. By the 4th I'm going to be just DEAD. I just keep repeating to myself: dream house, dream house, dream house.....Goals are good.....going after them with vigor is even better. Makes me feel alive, seriously! 

I feel like I lost SO much ground in the last year with feeding the business and really caring for it. With going off the rails and chasing a different "dream"....that turned out to be not-so-dreamy....I went looking for my ideals elsewhere....when they were right here all along. 

Grass isn't always greener, folks. Sometimes you just have to remember to water your own patch of land once in awhile (I always sucked at lawn work).

So that's what I'm focusing on for 2016-2017. 

Lots of water : )

- We've been concentrating on "watering" our garden of family time together too (ok, that was cheeseball.....). Trying as much as we can to carve out fun time with the kids, especially now that Bridget is here and they aren't getting AS much attention as they're used to. 

Parenting is hard work, yo.

Check out some shots from the kick-off of summer vacation! Stay tuned to the blog for GREAT wedding sneak peeks, seniors, portraits, and more fractured thought.




 

Got the girls up to the new studio to try out all the little nooks and crannies of amazing light. LOVE. 

Got the girls up to the new studio to try out all the little nooks and crannies of amazing light. LOVE.

 

Writing the Story ~ Wisconsin Wedding Photographer

I have a picture that sits on a shelf in my library. It's sepia toned, which....ugh, don't even get me started on sepia tone....but it shows its "age", I suppose.

It's from my wedding (sepia tone was still acceptable in 2006, apparently). It's half out of focus....because, well...I didn't choose my wedding photographers very well. 

But, it's framed. And it sits, looming large, over the rest of the pictures on that shelf. It's of me and my grandparents. I'm smiling ear to ear. Grandpa is a tad fuzzy....Grandma is beaming. 

I love that picture more than any other shot that day. More than the posey images by the garden. More than any shot of any detail. More than any staged image created that day.

That image shows love. It tells my story. Those two people, prior to creating a family of my own, were my world. I loved them most. I loved them the best.

 

It's so easy to get wrapped up in creating "cool" images....perhaps "award winning" set-ups or perfectly lit, editorial concoctions with amazing skies and dramatic posing. 

Those may get you noticed. They make people say "that is incredible work"....and I really do enjoy crafting images of those type, at times. I love when a plan comes together.

But, lately, I've had the feeling that I needed to really work at stripping down my wedding coverage to its raw, emotional base. To rediscover the narrative. The story the two people are crafting as the day progresses. 
 

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When I meet with a couple, I want to know their vision. Their likes and dislikes. What do they see for their day? 

But I'm finding now more than anything, I want to know their story. Who are their "people"? What connections do they have that are wildly important to them? What do they find funny or what makes them cry? 

There are things you just cannot fake on a wedding day, no matter how hard you try. Cameras are amazing things...they can capture tension. They can capture relief. They can capture overwhelming, unashamed joy or crippling sorrow. 

That's what makes my job so beyond incredible.

 

I have to admit....a year ago I didn't know if I wanted to continue in the field. Part of me was probably a bit burnt out. I also have this thing that most creatives have where I feel that I wasn't "good enough".....I would look at absolutely breathtaking work my peers were putting out....or see peers that were booking like mad-men (or ladies) and just feel maybe I was barking up the wrong employment tree. 

We had just sold our record store....a dream I had chased on behalf of my husband. But it wasn't mine. Honestly? Part of me thought maybe dreams were foolish and I needed to just get something 9-5 that was "practical".

I went into a directorship for an assisted living facility because that's what I went to college to do and I felt that if I didn't at least TRY it, I'd always wonder. Maybe it was what my dream was. Maybe it was what I was meant to do. 

It wasn't. 

I knew immediately it wasn't. That wasn't my story. I was playing a part, but I was woefully miscast. 
 

When I was a kid, I wanted to be a writer. I wrote day and night: stories, journals, I wrote anything and everything. I wrote like breathing depended on it. I relished writing assignments...I dreamed of one day writing the great American novel. 

That dream, like so many others, went by the wayside...in favor of practicality and other endeavors. 

But, I'm quickly realizing that it's entirely possible I have become a writer of stories....my medium has just shifted a bit. It's not pen to paper....its camera to eye.

 

When I reach out to the masses in hopes that they'll consider Type A for their wedding coverage, I want them to know that I'm all about customer service...that I'll work my fingers and feet to the bone for them....that I'll create some awesome images with my trusty "light on a stick" and softbox.

But, 8 years in....I want them to know I also want to strip it down to what its about: the story. I'm still that little 7 year old girl with pen in hand, wanting to be a writer. 

The importance of what we do as wedding photographers is not to be wrapped up in gimmick. Gimmicks are fleeting. Your story is forever....no matter where the plot line leads down the road...it's forever.

 

One lesson I've learned BIG TIME this year....(and I can't believe it took me 8 years to learn) is that I'm not for everyone....but I am the perfect shooter for someone....for quite a few someones. The stories I've been privileged to document and tell this year....the players are all people who connected with Type A in some way.

I don't want to be the shooter people go to simply because of price.
Or because of gimmick.
Or because of frustration with overwhelming amount of choice (dude, I feel ya.) 

I want people to seek out the storytelling...and decide "that is how I want my narrative told".

And someday....I want a place on the mantle...on that library shelf...for a picture that perfectly wraps up the story of your beginning as a "WE"....or a picture that says everything about how you feel about someone.

That's all I can hope for...and that alone keeps me shooting and, yes, dreaming. 

10 Things That Happen When You're a Photographer With Kids ~ Wisconsin Photographer

Having kids and having a business is....well...let's just say it's an "adventure". It's a lesson in time management....it's "interesting"...to say the least. 

I often wonder what it's like on the other side....what it's like to do this as a DINK (dual income no kids) or a single lady (hey girl!) ....or a single dude. So many stories, so many ways to approach this job.

Here's what goes down as a photographer who HAS kids. Throw a hand up in solidarity if you know the drill.....

1. Kids Started You on the Journey

Not ALWAYS, but for a LOT of us the reason we picked up a camera in the first place was because we had kids and wanted to take nicer pictures of them than our phone or our point and shoot could provide. I know that's when I ended up getting a "nice camera".  The thing sat...for a LONG time...but once I had the time (read: I was fired from my big girl job)....I took to it like a duck to water. Well, maybe like an awkward duck missing a leg to water at first....but I took to it none-the-less. 

 

(Picture by Andrea Paradowski Photography) 

(Picture by Andrea Paradowski Photography) 

2. You Have Built In Guinea Pigs

When I first started "lighting all the things", I made Betty stand in front of the flash for hours on end as I adjusted settings and feathered softboxes. She was mighty patient with me. 

She was also subject to years of horrible Photoshopping. 

Kids allow you to try stuff out before you unleash it on the masses. 

3. You Feel It Necessary to Bring Out the Big Guns

I honestly feel BAD if I don't bring the "real camera" to events with the kids....like I'm not doing my duty. Sort of like a dentist's kid having jacked up teeth....I feel like my kids should at least have their photographer mom bringing the "real camera" to document their stuff. 

Even though it's often a giant pain in the butt, I will drag the D800 and the 180mm to the Christmas program. 

4. "You Must Have Gorgeous Pictures of the Kids"

People say this ALL. THE. TIME.  They assume my kids are wonderful angelic models in front of the camera and that my walls are festooned with incredible images of them.

Most of the time, I get this: 

I also haven't gotten new pictures of the kids on my wall since Molly was a newborn....with the exception of a family session done for us by someone else. 

FAIL.   My job is to make other people's kids look good. Not my own : ) 

5. Your Work Spaces are a Mess

Now, I try. I really really do. I try to make sure my home office is tidy.....but often the desk is full of drawings the kids did for me of various Princesses....I'll come home to find they put stickers of Anna and Elsa all over my computer screen, and my camera bag TYPICALLY has a Pony or Shopkin in it. 
The more kids you add, I find, the more STUFF accumulates. Just looking at my desk right now, there's more kid-crap than work-crap. 

6. You're Gonna Miss Stuff. Lots of Stuff. 

I have not made it to a Family Reunion in YEARS. I've worked on Betty's birthday for several summers (including this one). Wedding dates have fallen on important event dates and I just have to say "Welp, that's the way it goes"

I know friends of mine in the industry who have missed graduations, plays, recitals and sports events. 

It's the nature of the beast. 

But, when you have kids....events happen. When you're a wedding photographer, you're gonna miss some of those event. Its inevitable. 

We move Birthday Parties to Sundays.....we have fun on the weekdays....I make sure to REALLY take a good look at schedules but sometimes planning a year in advance is just impossible. 
 

7. You Gain A Major Understanding of Other Parents and Their Kids

Dude, for real. NEVER feel bad if your kid comes to the studio and is acting like a psycho. I feel ya. Seriously. Have you MET my 5 year old? 

I totally get it when kids don't cooperate. When they throw major fits or give me attitude. Because I live with it. Every day. And trust me, when it happens to me I am JUST as mortified. 

Usually I feel bad because as the "professional" I can't get them to straighten up and fly right in front of the camera. But, I can't get my OWN kids to do that! 

Just know I feel ya.....I'm with ya....don't sweat it! 

Don't worry. My kids can be insufferable brats too. 

Don't worry. My kids can be insufferable brats too. 

8. You Have MAJORLY Understanding Babysitters/Spouses

You kinda have to. Because your schedule is whack. Because things run long. Because you work when other people don't. Because while hubby wants to cuddle on the couch with a bottle of red and a good movie, you have to FINALLY sit down to edit because the kids FINALLY went to bed. 

We are fortunate to have a VERY flexible babysitting situation (read: a very understanding mother-in-law) and my husband is super-parent on the weekends. It works for us, but it took YEARS of schedule adjusting and...let's face it....fights about how much I worked to get to this point. 

9. You Wonder If You Need to Start Saving For Therapy

Because you're gone all the time....spending time on other people's kids. Or, because you're ALWAYS at the computer. 

We all question our abilities and competency as parents. Seriously. None of us think we are doing everything we can all of the time....

But to this day it keeps me up at night wondering if ALL the time I spend on the business is going to ruin my kids for life. 

10. You Realize Balance is REALLY HARD....if not Impossible Sometimes. 

People talk about "balance" all the time. I even blogged about it at one point, I'm sure. 

After 8 years and 3 kids....I'm realizing there really is no such thing. If you're going to run a business and have kids, something is going to suffer at some point. You have to give SOMETHING up. I've chosen, for example, to tighten up my workflow so I don't have to edit so much. We chose to sell our retail store to have more time with the kids. I chose not to work ANOTHER full time job in addition to shooting. 

We make choices. Sometimes the business is going to win. Sometimes the kids.

Maybe that is balance, I dunno.


 

We are all just hangin' in best we can. And sometimes it gets SO hard that we want to just quit the whole thing, scoop our babies up in our arms and say "I don't care if mommy's employed, let's go get ice cream".....but that's not realistic now, is it.

Have some grace with yourself. Have some patience with this journey, because it's YOURS....you make it what you want it to be and sometimes it's not going to be perfect. 

I kinda like my imperfect little mess, sometimes. It's certainly never boring : )